Proverb 18: Stealth
Fall 2010 by Solomon II
Everything I write comes from real world experience. I either write about things I’ve personally encountered, or I brazenly rip off and put my own spin on some of the best articles I find on the web which feature firsthand accounts of relevant events.
But this post is different.
Unlike my other posts, this one is theory. The ideas and suggestions I’m about to propose are completely new to me, and I’m going to have to work hard to put them into practice. This time I’m not writing to you, I’m writing to me. It’s time for me to find the balls it takes to make a fundamental life change, and it isn’t easy when it comes to relationship matters. The directives below will require me to change not only my outward actions (or reactions) to specific events, but to also rewire my brain to fundamentally accept what I already know. Currently I have the intellect and knowledge, but acceptance and implementation is where I fall short.
This is a follow up to my post Proverb 17: Top 10 Lies Women Tell.
The title of this Proverb is “Stealth”. I’m not referring to the actual dictionary definition of the word, but rather the Stealth B2 Bomber. The B2 has two major defenses which helps it navigate the war theater. The first defense is a surface which absorbs radar, and the second is the aircraft’s unique angles which deflect radio beams.
Absorb and deflect. That’s the lesson I need to learn.
As men living in a world where women are nothing more than overgrown children, we’re constantly faced with a sobering reality. While both genders have their good sides and bad sides, society has encouraged women to view their weaknesses as strengths and their strengths as weaknesses. In the end, men are stuck with all of the downside and virtually none of the upside of a woman. Women used to be moody but feminine. Now they’re moody but slutty. They used to be irrational and submissive. Now they’re irrational and manipulative. In short, there was a time when men would suffer through a woman’s flaws because there was a payoff, and women would return the favor by overlooking a man’s flaws. In the end, happy unions for the most part and healthy families were the outcome.
Those days are long gone.
The real kick in the nuts here is that if you dare to even attempt to call a woman’s attention to these matters, you’ll be subjected to shaming language by the bitch herself, every other woman on the planet, and the 80% of men who are pussy whipped feminized Betas. Cue the “I don’t know any men who think like you” and “The men I know are open minded and don’t judge women like you do” language. Of course you could always gingerly point out that her 32 year old ransacked womb (stained with the jizz of dozens of men who still forward nude photos of her to their buddies while they brag about the nasty shit they got her to do on the first date) is still single even in the midst of all these “great guys”, but it won’t do you any good. It’ll make you feel better for calling her out on her bullshit, but you’ll never get your point across and you’ll have a fight on your hands. It’s impossible to kill or even slow down her rationalization hamster. Trust me, I’ve tried.
So there you stand. Living in a world where if you want a serious long term relationship, your “the one” could simply be the woman who has had the bare minimum respect for her body, displays the bare minimum amount of trustworthiness, and exudes the bare minimum levels of femininity. The absolute best you can possibly hope for in today’s dating market is a woman who meets the basic requirements for what makes an amiable human being. The bar is set so goddamn low, that when a man finds the best of the worst, he can consider himself lucky. There’s a reason women hate each other. Think about it.
As King Solomon wrote in Proverbs chapter 31, “Who can find a virtuous woman, for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her… She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
Virtuous? Shit. Most of us would settle for a run-of-the-mill girl with a decent personality who could be somewhat trusted and has a reasonable amount of respect for herself. In my not-so-humble opinion the only way a man can be happy in a long term relationship with 99% of today’s women is if he learns to go Stealth. Absorb and deflect. If you’re over the age of 28, you’ll drive yourself goddamn crazy trying to find a sweet, caring, feminine trustworthy woman who hasn’t had more pricks than a used dartboard.
So here’s the outline. Here’s the four step process that I’m going to do my best to implement from now on so that I’m not continually pissed off by whores who lie, cheat, manipulate, and act like spoiled children: Target > Absorb > Deflect > Bomb.
Target: You must identify your target and know its coordinates. If you’re with a typical modern princess, it’s probably somewhere around (Latitude 18º 15′ Slut, Longitude 66º 30′ Liar). As long as you’re well versed on your target and don’t fall for snowflaking, you are ready to move in to Stealth mode. Remember, when setting your coordinates, a woman will insist she’s not a used up cunt if there’s not a foreign dick in her mouth at the *exact* moment you broach the subject, and that she’s not a liar if she’s not messaging an ex fling *during* your conversation. What she did 2 minutes ago is in the past, and what she’ll do in the future is nothing short of perfect because she’s changed. She will see herself as a real catch. A lady full of grace and beauty. She’ll see herself as your woman, best friend, confidant, and lover until she changes her mind. Don’t be fooled. Know your target.
Of course when I write like this, women think men like me believe they are constantly in a state of being a lying whore. I don’t think that at all. I’m simply suggesting that women do what they want when they want. Oft that which they desire is good, pure in spirit, and mutually beneficial to their significant other. The problem arises when what they want is self serving, because most women lack the moral compass, strength of character and ethical code to stop themselves from engaging in behavior that is detrimental to a relationship. I would venture to say that even the biggest lying whore on the globe is a rather decent human being 80% of the time. Still, she acts in her own emotional and physical interests without apology while demanding that you have strength of character.
Absorb: A man must absorb this information. He must expect that she will lie. He must expect that she will manipulate, and not let himself become upset or thrown off by it. Do not question her for it will give her reason to lie, and do not lie to her lest it give her reason to manipulate. Take it all in with a smile. Know that she is lying, know that she is manipulating the situation, but say nothing. Do nothing. You probably think I’ve lost my damn mind, but I’m not suggesting you become a beta fucktard who lives in a state of perpetual delusion or allows himself to be played. I’m suggesting that to avoid conflict (not for the bitch’s sake, but for your own peace of mind) you abstain from giving her the hellfire she deserves. For now anyway.
Deflect: When she lies to you, say “Ok baby, by the way, what are your plans this weekend?” When she starts manipulating a situation with things like “You don’t love me.” Run over to her, squeeze her tight, and say “I wuv oo show much I can’t bewieve I’m so wucky to have oo.” Then change the subject. When she locks her female radar on you and starts in on something so batshit stupid and illogical you nearly die of a stroke, deflect it like you didn’t even notice. This will keep the bitch quiet and happy thinking her lies and manipulation are actually working. Meanwhile you’ve avoided conflict, you’re not putting up with anything you wouldn’t have to deal with from any other broad out there, and you’re getting laid on a regular basis – the one thing she’s consistently good for.
Bomb: Now for the good stuff. Before you enter a long term relationship using the tenets of Stealth, predetermine how much shit you’ll take from a woman. If she’s a fling or a pump-n-dump it doesn’t really matter, but for an LTR, you need to mentally draw a line in the sand. The moment she crosses it, bomb the living fuck out of her. Annihilate her world. Be sure she doesn’t live to fight another day. Your goal is to dump a bitch without her ever seeing any warning signs of her impending doom. She’s put you through a world of shit, so take her out Stealth B2 style. Come out of nowhere, deliver your pay load, then blast off into the sunset leaving nothing but scorched earth in your wake.
Here are the pros and cons as I see them of a Stealth long term relationship. Feel free to add more if you think I’ve missed something.
PRO: You finally learn to accept the inevitable and don’t get worked up over it, therefore you fight less with your girl.
PRO: By not calling her out on her lies and manipulation, you can observe a woman in her natural habitat. The moment you tip her off by arguing or offering a counterpoint, she course corrects. By allowing her to be herself you keep the control group untainted in your experiment.
PRO: With minimal effort you keep the pussy coming until you’re tired of her shit.
PRO: The look on her face when you bomb her ass should be fucking priceless if you do it right.
CON: You risk looking like a beta in her eyes for not calling her out on her shit.
CON: It’s going to be extremely difficult for any Alpha male to hold his tongue when some whore starts snowflaking or lying to him. This isn’t going to be easy.
CON: You may start feeling like a giant pussy if you don’t keep the overall goal in mind.
In closing, I’ll remind you that regardless of whether or not you decide to adopt the Stealth method, you will still have to put up with being lied to in any type of interaction with a woman. Why not give this a try? Why not have the time the two of you spend together be as pleasant as possible, then enjoy a sense of satisfaction and manhood when you blow her ass to smithereens if she crosses the line?
The real question for me is: Can I put my pride aside and not flip out on some broad when she engages in lies and manipulation long enough to make this work? I’m tired of fighting with women. I’m tired of arguing minor details like “uh, bitch, if he put his dick in you a year ago, then he’s an ex – and you said you never contact exes”. Honest to Christ, I just can’t take it anymore.
Though I may fail a time or two during my ramp up period, I’m making a personal goal to go Stealth in my next LTR. Wish me luck.
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As iron sharpeneth iron, so one man sharpeneth another. Proverbs 27:17
8 Responses to Proverb 18: Stealth
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Lupo Leboucher says:
I’ve always done something like this. I emphatically don’t fight with women. I did it with my first LTR, and realized that it was utterly pointless. If it’s some yoyo who loves to fight, eject. If it’s just a woman being a crazy bitch, laugh at their impostures, stick your cock in their mouths when they talk too much, and dump them when you’re sick of their shit, or when they’ve done something truly inexcusable. This is the only rational way to date in the modern age. Arguing with a woman’s hamster wheel is demeaning to any man with a measurable intellect, and should never be done.
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Solomon II says:
@Lupo
We’ll see how it goes. I’m done fighting with women unless it’s something “truly inexcusable” to use your words. I’d like to get to the point of if we’re fighting, we must be breaking up.
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Lovekraft says:
Great post. The deck is stacked against men when manipulation and deceit come into play. Men have enough on their plate and basically aren’t hardwired t use duplicity and reacting to emotion.
Call me old-fashioned but I am only 41 and have to find that one woman who makes me feel truly secure – without a pre-nup, and without dominance. But when women are so socialized to absorb any and all external suggestions re female empowerment, not to mention their hardwiring, finding that connection is a daunting task.
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I’m troubled by this post in that it seems your end goal of a relationship – what you are actively working towards – is to have an enormous blow out and end the relationship. By being conflict avoidant and storing it all up you’re creating the pressure to explode it all. It’s a very Beta approach to a relationship. Nice guys do this stuff all the time.
The solution is to bump back on her lesser infractions before she advances to make larger ones. If she can’t display a learning curve, then you think about ending the relationship.
If she’s nice, you’re nice too. If she’s testing, you bump back and pass the test. Once you past the test you say “we ready to be nice yet, or do I have to keep this up?”. Rinse and repeat.
That’s all there is to it. If you do it consistently enough her negative behavior should lessen. It’s also a lot easier if you find a woman that isn’t overly high maintainence too.
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I would agree with Athol on this one…except for the “we ready to be nice yet, or do I have to keep this up?” part. I don’t believe you really need to use that passive-aggressive phrase.
I don’t know where you are meeting these women, but man, it sounds rough. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve met my share of liars and manipulators. That’s exactly why I don’t offer exclusivity until I am 100% sure I got a great woman. And you can usually spot the signs of a liar and manipulator. My version of stealth would be analyzing their behavior when we hang out, when we are not exclusive. Does she talk to other guys at the bar when we are out at a bar or does she quickly come to me? Does she constantly text dudes when we are having a night out? Does she ever lie about things? If she does, she will never get exclusive rights and I don’t care how much cock she plows, I’ll be out plowing my own poon fields.
I personally believe every person on earth is like a dog. Men and women alike, we are animals. Just like animals we act up. If you just let people roam, they shit all over the place, give you shit, take advantage of you. That’s why you got to put your foot down early, let them know where the boundaries lie – then watch their reactions.
Do they respect your boundaries or do they continually test them. If they test them you got to lay them down harder. And if that doesn’t work, send that fucking animal into the wilderness.
For example, let’s say she’s texting while you are out with her…let her know to cut it out. Next time it happens, let her know, if she has a problem with it, leave her there. She’ll call you asking you to come back for her…make her convince you or make it up to you. Happens again? Take her phone and throw it as far as you can and that will end the relationship ; ) And she’s learn a valuable lesson!
Usually people will realize when they are making you feel uncomfortable and will change their behavior to suit you if they feel you have value – even if they don’t always like doing it at the start.
As for relationships, don’t get in them unless you have a winner on your hands.
TL: It appears Solomon was writing from the perspsective of living in a major city and from working in PR and marketing. That’s from one of his blog post replies. His experience with women seems to line up with dating scenes in the coastal cities and Chicago. In the less metropolitan aeras and in the midwest the differences are mostly in degree. The women are a little less bitchy, slutty and materialistic, but still mostly too much.
Most of the women I’ve known in the midwest where I am from are not nearly as bad as Solomon, Roissy, and others describe. But they are still totally unsuited to LTRs — too feeling oriented, too materialistic, too crass and vulgar, too enamored of SATC and EPL and Disney princess movies, completely into emo porn, and have racked up big partner counts.
Athol is right in the sense that you can train a chick on how things work at your house, but it does take a concerted effort and a talent for discernment. The question is, what outcome do you want? If you want to fine tune her and train her for the long-term, Athol’s way is correct.
If you know you do not want long-term, all you have to do is give a girl enough rope to hang herself. Almost every time, she will, which means that you can bail guilt-free if you like. I don’t really like that approach, but it’s not entirely unfair. Girls can beat that by having excellent character.
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Part of the issue is whether a man realizes that every woman he wants has some wayward character and many of them could be excellent mates if they are just trained/ corrected/ helped… and that if you want an LTR, you are probably gonna have to do that for a chick.
So, do you want to help her out and lift her up (her only hope since no one else holds her accountable to improve) or do you want to just get some sex and then eject her and blame her for the flaws that she has always had that she has almost NO chance of overcoming unless someone helps her? Some folks might call the “helping her put her character flaws in check” as White Knighting, but I think it depends how you look at it. Certainly the ideal would be to have a chick so awesome she is all squared away. But when you realize that they are all lying whores, but you are tired of being alone, I’d say that picking one you get along with and checking her behavior is a very good PLAN B. The only alternative seems to be to be alone and likely with a hatred of women. Being alone isn’t so bad, but it’s lonely. Hating women is totally unnecessary, after you understand what you are dealing with, and how to get an acceptable situation with one. In my scenario of ‘helping them’ it would be a Patriarchal structure, and actual help (rebukes+instruction) as opposed to supplication and enabling more whorish liar behavior.
The sweet irony of this post is that just as women OFTEN totally know that a dude is lying to her… men can also tune in and realize what big liars girls are too, and we both equally dig our own graves when we are lying our asses of to a ‘mate’ who we have underestimated and now insulted.
If you do that, you will hurt them or at worst, inspire them to really fuck you up bad later to be vindictive and pay you back. (by cheating, bailing, stealing money/favors or any combination)